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How To Pick Up Girls In 2024
Learn How To Pick Up Girls In 2024
When it comes to learning how to pick up girls in 2023, self-confidence is extremely sexy to a woman. In fact, I’d go so far as to say that, more than a man’s good looks and more than his gentlemanly manner, confidence is the trigger trait that makes a woman want to get naked. Do you want to make your girl crush into your BFF? If you want to be able to make that cool girl you’ve had your eye on into your new best friend, and possibly get her into bed,then you have to work on introducing yourself, making the girl feel good about herself, and creating a long lasting and meaningful friendship—without putting too much pressure on the girl. If you play your cards right, then you’ll have an awesome new best friend before you know it. Basically a newfound friend with benefits type of set-up.
You know the feeling. You’re out at a bar or a nightclub, or even just walking down the street, when you see the most incredibly sexy woman. She could be drop-dead gorgeous, or something about her smile is making you itch to get to know her better and get into her pants. But when you approach her, you get nervous. You forget what to say, start mumbling, and in extreme cases, may even forget your own name. If you want to know how to pick up girls in 2023, without being nervous or shy, read this article for some helpful tips.
Women want a man with balls of steel and without a hint of irony in his voice. This desire is evolutionary. Females want someone who’s not going to run from a fight, a man who is confident in his ability to provide and protect. Simply put, confidence gets the girl. So if you want to be more attractive to women, show your bravado. But I don’t mean by pounding your chest like a gorilla, or the drunk at the end of the bar. You don’t have to be a wiseguy to make yourself instantly irresistible. Here are some of the more-effective techniques and strategies:
Know When To Make Your Move
The first step to picking up a woman is finding the right woman. You should find a woman who looks ready to talk to someone new, whether it’s because she’s bored with her current company, or just because she’s out and looking for some fun. Sometimes you can’t always tell if a woman wants some new company, the more open she is, the more likely you’ll be to succeed. Here are some tell-tale signs that you should go up to her:
- If she’s checking you out – If she has looked over at you more than once, and has even smiled when your eyes met, then she is checking you out. If her friends are all looking over at you and giggling, then she — or at least one of her friends — is checking you out. Get over there already.
- If she looks bored or annoyed with her company – Maybe she’s yawning repeatedly when talking to a needy girlfriend, or she keeps rolling her eyes at the group of loud bros she showed up with. Come on, knight in shining armor — it’s your chance to gallop on over and save her from her company. If you read the situation correctly, then she’ll appreciate the change of pace.
Below Are Some Reasons Not To Approach Her
- Don’t approach if she’s on a date, unless it’s obviously not going well.
- If she’s having an intense lip-locking session with her man, stay away. But if she’s on what looks like a first date and she looks absolutely bored or the guy she’s with is spending more time checking his phone, you can approach her when the guy steps out if you’re feeling bold.
- Don’t approach her if she’s having a violent catch-up session with her girlfriend – If she’s in a big group of women, that’s one thing, but if it’s her and another friend, and they are talking quickly and intensely and they haven’t scanned in crowd in over an hour, she’s probably getting some much-needed catch up time with a friend.
When You Are Ready to Approach Her
- Approach Her With the Utmost Confidence – Once you’ve zeroed in on your target, you need to show her that you’re confident about who you are, that you love what you do, and that you’d love to get to know her, but your life won’t be over if she rejects you.
- Don’t seem like you’re desperate – Coming across as the desperate or approval-seeking type can be a big turnoff. Remember that most women will know if they want to go home with you within the first fifteen minutes of the conversation, so make your time with the girl count. Here’s how to do it:
- Make eye contact – First, make eye contact with her from across the room. Then, make sure to lock eyes with the woman when you come up to her. You don’t have to be creepy about it, but you should show that you’re comfortable enough with the situation to look into her eyes instead of staring at the floor or your feet.
- Smile – Smiling will show that you’re cool with the situation, and that you’re not nervous. Remember: you’re happy with who you are, so even if she rejects you flat out, you’ll walk out with your head held high.
- Watch out with what you’re doing with your body – Don’t slouch and don’t cross your arms over your chest – Keep your body open — anything can happen.
- Give her your undivided attention – Without getting too close, turn your body toward her, and avoid any distractions, like checking your phone every five seconds — or at all.
- Dress and look the part – Part of looking confident is dressing well. You don’t have to wear a tuxedo, but just put on a flattering outfit that fits well, and look like you’ve showered earlier that day.
Have An Original,Effective, Opening
Once you’ve come up to the girl, you have to make sure you say and do the right thing so you hook her interest. If you start off on the wrong foot, it may be hard to recover, so you should make a good impression as soon as you can. Here’s how to do it:
- Relax. If you’re not relaxed when you join her, she’ll know it in a second and will be turned off. Remind yourself that the worst thing that can happen is that she rejects you. Can you survive that?
- Don’t use a pick up line. Unless you think she has a really silly sense of humor, avoid any common pick up lines like, “You must be tired, because you’ve been running through my mind all night.” Women won’t appreciate your lack of originality.
- Make it clear that you’re trying to pick her up. If you’re indirect with your approach, you might come across as someone who’s looking for a platonic friendship, rather than a date. To avoid any confusion, express your interest right away. For instance, you might say, “Would you like to come sit with me? I’d love to buy you a drink.”
- Introduce yourself. Tell her your name, and if you want to be cute and formal, you can even shake her hand. The first move you have to make in order to get your friendship going is to introduce yourself to the girl.
- You don’t have to be too aggressive about it or act like you’re dying to be BFF with the girl. Just say hi, tell her what your name is, and ask her how she’s doing. Make sure you catch her at a good time, when she doesn’t seem busy or worried over anything, and that you act casually about it.
- Use a good introductory line. Just say something like, “Hi, I’m John. It’s great to meet you. What’s your name?” And take it from there.
- Don’t ask her too many questions. If you decide to do this, and end up telling her too much about yourself right away she will get overwhelmed. Take it easy and give your friendship time to bloom.
- Get her by herself if at all possible. Try to find a time when the girl is by herself so you have her attention. If you try to talk to her while she’s with too many other people, you may not make as much of an impression.
Take Her Compliments
When she says she likes your dimples, simply “smile and say thank you. Insecure people deflect compliments by asking, “Really? You think so?” or by listing reasons they don’t deserve the compliment. Secure people accept praise gracefully and without ado.
Gaze Into Her Eyes
Tell her you love her dimples while gazing at her feet and you’ll reek of emotional insecurity. If locking eyes with a stranger feels uncomfortable, focus on her mouth and she’ll never know the difference, says Renee Piane, a motivational speaker and author of Love Mechanics: Power Tools to Build Successful Relationships. Staring elsewhere makes you appear uninterested, inattentive, or insincere—especially during sweet talk.
Always Be Yourself — To a Point.
This means that you should show her who you really are instead of putting up a phony front, but that you should also tone down the more unique parts of your personality until she gets to know you better, or she may be thrown off. Here’s how to do it:
(a). Don’t be a poser – Don’t act like you’re this Lothario who get all the women. Just be a cool guy who wants to get to know her. Don’t talk about all the other girls in your life, or she’ll think, then why the hell is he talking to me for?
(b). Show her your true colors – Tell her a bit about your interests, what you do on the days you’re off from work, or mention that awesome trip you took to Las Vegas with your buddies. The girl should have a sense of who you are besides that guy who is hitting on her.
(c). Remember that you’re not with your bros – Though she can get to know you for real later, hold off on the crass jokes, or the stories that might make you come off in an unflattering light.
Walk This Way Baby
“Women look first at your attire and second at how you walk,” says Steele. Keep your wardrobe stylish and impeccable. Ashley Rothschild, a Los Angeles-based image consultant, suggests you emulate the look of a successful public man in your business arena. She also thinks you’d look hot in a leather jacket. It’s classic. It’s Steve McQueen. Your stride? Slow down. “Confident people are not in a hurry,” says Steele. “But there’s a difference between meandering and walking slowly with purpose. Always walk as if you know what you’re doing and where you’re going.” Also, she’ll respond best to realistic compliments. “You’re the physical epitome of everything I look for in a woman” will immediately set off her bullsh–t red light. “You’ve got beautiful eyes” will make her blush.
Call Before The Third Day
She gave you her number. Use it within 48 hours or you’ll look either scared or stupid for resorting to high-school mind games. Nervous? Manage the cold call as you would a business call. “Executives are action-oriented, gathering information and wasting no time in getting a project started. Apply these tactics to your private life,” suggests Judith Coche, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and professor at the University of Pennsylvania. “If you fail, move on. It’s not about personal rejection—it’s the business of making stuff work,” says Coche.
Be Able To Perform At The Sound Of A Beep
If you get her voice mail, leave a message. To convey confidence, your voice should be deep and moderately loud. Stand up and hum a little before you call—it will bring your voice to the ideal pitch. Say who you are, where you met, and why you’re calling.Don’t seek her approval. Instead, ask a question that presupposes her interest in you, like, ‘How soon would you like to get together again?’ That way it’s not a matter of yes or no.” Leave your number and ask her to call you back. If she doesn’t, call her again a couple of days later.
Never Expose Your Negatives
When talking about yourself, keep it positive. Stick to your best attributes and the interests you’re most passionate about. Always give the press-release version of you.Tell her everything good about your life that you wouldn’t mind seeing in 4-inch-high letters on the front page of the newspaper the next morning.”
Have a Proper Seat
Knowledge breeds confidence. Do you know where to sit during a dinner date? Always position yourself at a 90-degree angle to her instead of straight on, says Steele. If she sits at the end of the table, sit in the first seat to her left. Turn toward her from the waist, which will give her the opportunity to turn toward you. The vast majority of women don’t like a full-frontal assault. It’s intimidating, so a confident man should realize that he should give the woman the choice to turn to him, and he is sure that she will.
Be Direct, And Don’t Beat Around The Bush
If you’d like to go into her apartment, tell her at the door—and skip the excuse about needing to use her bathroom. Want to kiss her goodnight? Go for it. “Kissing someone is an emotional thing, and asking [permission] diverts it into a cognitive realm instead,and most women hate that.
Celebrate Her Successes
A confident man doesn’t feel emasculated if the woman he’s with makes more money than he does; he takes it as a compliment. More than ever, successful single women earning more than $60K a year are looking for warm, loving men. They’re more selective in their partner choice because they can afford to reprioritize.
Truth is, she wouldn’t be dating you if she didn’t at least want to think you’re a catch. It’s when you believe it yourself that she’ll be convinced.
Arouse Her Interest
Make her feel like the most amazing woman in the world. Let’s face it. People want to feel special. Don’t feed her corny lines about how hot she is. Instead, let her know that you think she’s a unique chick and do it in an authentic way. Here’s how to do it: Ask her questions about herself. Don’t get nosy or get personal. Just ask her a few questions about herself, like what she loves to do, if she likes where she lives, or even her favorite sports teams or TV shows. You don’t want to walk away and have the girl think, “Wow, he doesn’t know one thing about me. He obviously just wanted to talk to me because he thought I was hot.”
Ask Her Opinion On Things
Show that her opinion matters. Just ask her some light-hearted questions about what she thinks of the drinks at the bar you’re at, or even if she likes your new Air Jordans.
Don’t Be Afraid To Compliment Her
Always do this, even if you think she’s heard it all before. If she’s beautiful, interesting, or has a great sense of humor, tell her. If you’re casual and honest about it, you won’t overwhelm her.
Fascinate Her
The key to picking up a woman is not only making her enjoy talking to you, but to make her think, “Hey, this is awesome — I want more of this.” To help her see how great you are, spend some time talking about yourself. Then, you can use whatever you’re talking about as a way to ask creative questions to learn more about her, as well.
Show Her What Makes You Special
Without showing off, tell her at least two or three things that will make her want to get to know you. Did you teach yourself Russian or spend a year on a motorcycle in France? Definitely make a point to mention that.
Find Some Things You Both Have In Common
Find something you have in common, whether it’s your love for Pro basketball or Japanese food, that you can talk about. Don’t make her think, “I love talking to this guy, but I just don’t think it’ll go anywhere because we don’t have anything in common.”
Tell Her Something Interesting
Show her that you’re a guy who reads the paper and knows what’s going on in the world. Without being boring, tell her a fluky fact that caught your eye recently.
Charm Her With Your Sense of Humor
Women love guys who can make them laugh, especially if they can do it without trying too hard. You should show her that you’re funny and that she’ll have a good time if she’s with you. Don’t make her think you’re trying so hard to make her laugh that she just feels sorry for you. Here’s how you can do it:
(a). Keep up the witty banter – If she says something funny, don’t just say, “That’s so funny” and laugh without responding. Instead, fire back something equally funny to show you can keep up.
(b). Tease her gently – Women love if you tease them if you do it the right way. Just poke fun at something she says, or tease her about her unique laugh. This will develop your relationship on a more playful level.
(c). Make fun of yourself – Don’t be self-deprecating, but show that you don’t take yourself too seriously and that you’re able to laugh at yourself.
Know When To Bow Out Gracefully
- Know when you are not welcome. Part of making a graceful exit is knowing when you are not wanted. This could be for a variety of reasons. Maybe the girl’s just not digging you. That’s okay. Maybe she has a boyfriend and doesn’t want to waste your time. Maybe she just wants to spend time with her girlfriends. Whatever the reason, once you get the sense it’s time to leave, get going.
- If the conversation lags completely and the girl is checking her phone or looking around constantly, it’s time to leave.
- If her friends start rolling their eyes at you or ignoring you, it’s time to leave.
- Once you know it’s time to go, don’t embarrass yourself further by saying, “Well, it looks like you’re just not interested” or “Sorry to bother you.” Just say, “Hey, it was great talking to you. I’ll see you around later.”
- Walk out with a smile on your face, even if you’re disappointed.
On the upside – If she’s laughing a lot, maintaining eye contact, playing with her hair, and just generally looking like she’s having a great time talking to you and wants more, it’s time to step it up.
Know When To Take Things To The Next Level
Feel out the situation – If it’s going well, take it to the next level. If you’ve really clicked during the conversation, and the girl is clearly into you, then it’s time to kick it up a notch and see where this thing goes. You’re trying to pick up the woman, right? So what are you waiting for?
- Find a better environment – If you’re at a bar or nightclub and things are wrapping up, you can say, “How about we go somewhere more private to talk?” Or, “What do you say we get out of here?”
- Find an alternative location – If you know the girl wants to keep hanging out but you don’t want to turn her off by trying to isolate her yet, ask her if she and her friends want to go to a quieter bar down the street, or invite her out to an after party with your friends. Remember, she just met you, and even if she likes you, she may not want to get down on the first night.
- Get her phone number and set up a date – If you’re not ready to ask her to come home with you, get her number. Don’t be nervous. Just make it clear that you’re really asking her out. Say, “Hey, this has been a great conversation, and I’d love to talk to you more over drinks or dinner. Can I get your number to set that up?”
In Summary
You are going to get shot down every now and then. That’s life. Pick yourself up and try again. Remember that you can pick up a girl at a place that’s not a bar or a club. You can pick up a woman in a park or a coffee shop. This can work to your advantage because she won’t be expecting it. Just make sure you’re not interrupting her if she clearly wants to be left alone. Dress well, but more importantly, dress appropriately. Don’t wear your clubbing shirt to a college watering hole and don’t wear a t-shirt and sneakers to the nightclub. By the way, after you’ve tried the proven startegies above on how to pick up girls in 2023, and you decide you want to take it one step further, and you’ve ordered and have gotten a chance to try “How To Get A Girl To Be Your Sex Buddy” and have leraned the “Nine little words” that make a girl beg to be your friend with benefits and have gotten the “Absolutely FREE” “The Five Easy Ways To Make Beautiful Women Approach You” regardless of how you look , or how old you are, feel free to comment in the comment section below and let me know how it’s working for you,THANKS!